This is really hard for me to explain. But I think another perspective could help sway my thoughts on it. My ex boyfriend. We dated for 9 months all together is all. He had, and still has, a best friend named Mitchell. It had been well over a year before this happened, but me and Mitchell started becoming close. We had always talked before and had a weird connection from the day we met, but that connection became very apparent and intense when we hung out together. He'd write songs and play them for me, and I simply enjoyed being around him. I was scared to feel so real and so blissfully happy. Neither of us wanted it to be this way, but we lost contact because I felt we couldn't see each other because it would be "wrong". People would talk, he'd lose his best friend. But it was so right. And I'm starting to realize that I don't know what's "right" anymore if what's "right" is hurting me. I want to be able to BE with Mitchell. To be able to talk to him freely. We always said in an alternate universe that things could be and would be perfect. But I can't have that. I don't know what to do. How to communicate the fact that we could makes things work out the way that we want to be, regardless of the world we live in. Basically, I'd just like your opinion.

I have an idea of what you are going through, one of my best friends went through a similar situation. Bascially the heart can not choose who it wants, it sort of just happens. And I think that you should try and talk to him again if he means that much to you. From the looks of it I think you mean a lot to him as well. If he is truly best friends with your ex, I think your ex would accept the fact that his best friend wants to be happy with you. Talking things out is the best. And no one should ever take away your freedom to talk to someone! My opinion is to talk to Mitchell about how you feel, and to explain to him that he should talk to his friend about all this.